In person match making dating
Online dating sites help fill the gap that our busy lives have created in our search for connection.
Online dating services are not only convenient, but they also have the apparent advantage of using systematic methods to match us with the partner of a lifetime.
On the quest to finding our perfect match it seems we blindly let personality type tests and zodiac signs decide our fate to bring us closer to the one — and we’re not alone.
Every year, two million people take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), a 93-question assessment exam that has been translated into 30 different languages to evaluate personalities for their career, education, management or leadership roles, relationships, counseling, parenting, team development, or to satisfy our natural curiosity.
They understand the qualities that I’m looking for in a match and are sincerely focused on arranging introductions to women having these qualities. " Chad, 5/16/2017 "Laura, and the team at lunch dates are excellent.
They listened to what I did and did not want in a date/relationship.
Their diagnostic tests seem to key in on the fundamental essence of our personalities, ensuring that we’ll be paired with the one person in the world whose fundamental essence will resonate to ours.
They also promise to improve the odds of our finding that person by providing us with access to large numbers of potential romantic partners; more than we would ever meet on our own.
First, a caveat—they did not look into sites such as Craiglist, sex or hookup sites, infidelity sites, sites for arranging group dates, social networking sites (such as Facebook) or online video games (such as World of Warcraft or Sims) Access Having the opportunity to examine the profiles of hundreds, if not thousands, of potential matches must surely be an advantage, right?
The theories of “like is attracted to like” and “opposites attract” are challenged by personality types, since they are best thought of as “complimenting” each other.
For example, the most frequent mating is between Introverted Experiencers and Extraverted Experiencers (SP Experiencers) and Introverted Traditionalists and Extraverted Traditionalists (SJ Traditionalists), which is not or opposites attracting.
To find out how best to use online services, we first have to examine their strengths and weaknesses.
Finkel and his collaborators critique the three main areas in which online dating services claim to be superior to the offline, or old-fashioned, way of meeting people in person.