Dating men with uncut penis
Not long ago, unapologetic former Kiambu Governor, William Kabogo was questioned by the Criminal Investigation Department for allegedly insinuating that communities that do not cut the foreskin should not produce national leaders. Meanwhile, we are yet to hear the last of why the doyen of Kenyan politics should not be president for allegedly being uncut. Just how much importance do they attach to the foreskin or lack thereof?The jury is still out on why a fellow man would be so interested in another man’s private parts; something that in basic logic should bother women more. Politics of the foreskin is a big deal even among women.About a year ago, I had my first encounter with an uncircumcised penis.I should add that there was a man attached to the penis; he was someone who I'd been out with on a couple dates, and that night was our first time.How humiliating and embarrassing for a father of 11 to undergo the cut under the glaring eyes of hundreds of strangers!
A while back we woke up to shocking front page news on the same in one of the local dailies.
Most of the trolling is based on myths and stereotypes about the foreskin; raging from an uncut man cannot maintain good hygiene to how inconveniencing and cumbersome the foreskin would be during coitus. If a spot check we did on the streets of Nairobi is anything to go by, then most Kenyan women prefer cut men.
Kate Wanja*, a salonist in Nairobi, says she cannot touch an uncut man, not even with a 20-feet pole. However, unlike in Kenya and perhaps other parts of Africa where most women prefer men who’ve undergone the cut, in the Western world things are different. Most argue that the cut reduces a man’s sensitivity, thus poor response during intimacy.
I didn't notice the difference at first -- unless you're really looking, it's difficult to discern an intact penis from a circumcised one when the penis is erect.
It wasn't until the post-coital moments of relaxation and intimacy that I saw what was going on down there. As someone who took many -- probably too many -- Women's Studies classes in college, I'm keenly aware of society's unrealistic definition of what's sexy, especially when it comes to women's bodies.